9 February 2018
Author Cath Lloyd shines spotlight on trans issues
Truth, honesty, anger, acceptance and love were some of the themes under discussion when
author Cath Lloyd spoke to college students about her life with her transgender father.
The writer, lifestyle coach and stress-relief expert shared her first-hand experiences with more
than 150 learners at West Nottinghamshire College this week (Tuesday 6 February) in a series of
talks arranged by the student experience team to mark LGBT History Month, which runs
Mrs Lloyd discussed how she initially struggled to accept her dad Martin’s surprise announcement
in 1987 that he wanted to become a woman; highlighting her emotions, inner-conflict and
torment as she wondered if things would ever feel normal again.
She went on to share her story of how, after initially fighting against her father’s gender re-
assignment, she developed coping mechanisms to finally conquer her anxieties and learn to not
only accept his life-changing decision but embrace it.
Mrs Lloyd has now turned her candid account into a book, called ‘When Dad Became Joan: Life
with My Transgender Father’, which also serves as a self-help guide for anybody coming to terms
with change, whether gender transitioning, separation, loss, illness, disability or living through
Level 3 public services student Chloe Simpson, 17, from Sutton-in- Ashfield, said: “Cath was really
inspirational. She explained things very well and answered our questions in great detail. If you
want to change sex, I think it’s completely natural and it’s your decision. You should do whatever
makes you happy.”
Classmate Reece Bowskill, 16, from Mansfield Woodhouse, said: “It was very informative and I
learned more about how complicated the process is, how long it takes and how determined
somebody needs to be to go through with it. Even though I’ve never had a problem with
transgender issues, this has given me a wider view. If anything, I will respect people’s differences
Mrs Lloyd, from Dudley, West Midlands, said: “My overall message was about the need to be OK
with who you are, and to challenge your thought processes around things you find uncomfortable
and learn to accept those difficult feelings. That is the key to learning, changing, understanding
and building better relationships.
“If people are experiencing anxiety and stress when they’re young and don’t resolve it, this will
build-up throughout their lives and really affect them. If they can start to manage it now, they are
going to be in a better position to live happier, healthier lives.
“The students asked extremely good questions. It’s nice to see young people showing such an
interest in this topic and being so inquisitive.”
When Dad Became Joan: Life with My Transgender Father costs £14.99 in paperback and £6.99 on
Kindle. It is available at www.cathlloyd.co.uk and on Amazon.
Author Cath Lloyd with students Jasmine Wood, 17, Reece Bowskill, 16, (back row) Brandon Lewis, 18, and Chloe Simpson, 17 (front row).
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Cath Lloyd specialises in life change coaching, training and support to manage the life you have, gain the strength to change what you no longer desire and be the person you always wanted to be. Contact Cath today to find out more about how her coaching techniques can help you be happier, be less affected by stress or fears, and live your life to the fullest, achieving all you ever wanted to achieve.
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