Let's Talk: You The CavemanLet's Talk: You, The Caveman
We all know about the flight, fight or freeze response when we are in difficult situations. In today's society not many of us are put in this sort of danger, thank goodness. However, we can experience a range of these physical and psychological affects when thrust into traumatic situations. This means we will go through phases of these responses which will also depend on how we are feeling as an individual. The anxieties we will feel along with the adrenalin rush, endorphines and cortisol will create a great cocktail of emotions and possible behaviours. For the majority of us it might be the first time we have experienced a traumatic situation and are having to learn on the job so to speak. But, it is important to remember that the physical and emotional feelings you are experienceing are normal. They will not feel like it but they are. The next step is deciding what to do with them.
If you are struggling to manage your conflicting and challenging emotions then my Top 10 Tips To Keeping Yourself Sane and the 7 Steps to Living Your Normal in part two of my book When Dad Became Joan:Life with my trasngender father can both be found on my website www.cathlloyd.co.uk
Let's Talk: Respect Your NoLet's Talk: Respect Your No
December can be a very frantic time of year for most people. We are trying to keep our roles and responsibilities going as usual plus the extra festive committments with friends, family and work colleagues. It is going to stretch our purses, our energy levels as well as our waist lines. So how do you respect your no? Well first and foremost it is about understanding ourselves and being honest with ourselves about what is important to us and how much we can manage. At the end of the day the Christmas period is for all of us not just for a few. If you really want to say no about a committment then take a deep breath and simply so "sorry no". People will respect you a lot more for saying that than promising to go and then not turning up or letting them down at the last moment. You don't need to go into a great long explanation.
If you are struggling with respecting your no and need some extra support then just send me a message.
Or why not register for my Top 10 Tips To Keeping Yuurself Sane, my 10 mini e-course by goign to: http://www.cathlloyd.co.uk/top-10-tips-to-keeping-yourself…/
Let's Talk: What keeps you goingLet's Talk: What Keeps You Going?
What keeps us going is going to different for everyone and you may find that it is going to change over time. In times of change and stress it might change year by year, month by month and even week by week. But, it is important to recognise your motivations so that you can work with them and in hard times use them to support yourself.
If you are struggling to keep going and want to start making a difference to how you are feeling then why start by registering for my Top 10 Tips To Keeping Yourself Sane, my 10 day mini e-course. Each day a tip will pop into your mail box to help you start putting the brightness back into each day.
The sooner you register, the sooner you can start and the sooner you will begin to notice a difference in the way you feel, think and behave.
Let's Talk: Keep a healthy self belief systemLet's Talk: Keeping a healthy self-belief system
Research tells us that 95% of our decisions are made by our subconscious. A frightening thought if you are struggling with your self-belief systems. The problem is we can easily fall into the trap of listening only to what we want to listen to and use past experiences to support that evidence. The problem is we can go way back to when we were child to get that supporting evidence. To get our self-belief balance back we need to put our hand on our heart and on our head, put both sets of information together and dig deep to reason with yourself to find the real answers. To find the truth. What happened 30 years ago most probably bears no resemblence to what your capabilities are like today. Don't let your self sabotaging belief system keep undermining you, continuing to affect your self-worth, self-esteem and confidence levels.
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Let's Talk: Self honestyLet's Talk: Self-honesty
Self-honesty is about reflecting and evaluating situations we have found hard as well as easy so that we can learn from them. It is important to be able to hold your hand up and say,'I made a mistake'. whether that is to yourself or to someone else. It can be hard especially when you have built up a whole collection of reasons for being the victim and expecting the other person to come forward to apologise or to put it right. By understanding yourself better you are in a far great position to be able to take action and start fixing whatever has gone wrong. This may be a relationship, career, a project or the way your little demon talks to you. If you are struggling to come to terms with your feelings of being the victim then why not contact me, www.cathlloyd.co.uk, to talk about how I can support you in finding the real you again.
Let's Talk: What is your body up toLet's Talk: What is your body up to?
It is important to check in with your body every now and again and not just when it is niggling at you trying to tell you that it doesn't feel great. During this session I will take you through a little exercise to check how your muscles are feeling. Are they feeling tense and hard or relaxed and soft? To help you manage your stresses and strains more easily why not register for my Top 10 Tips To Keeping Yourself Sane. A 10 day mini e-course that pops straight into your e-mail box. Each day will give a small tip that will only take a few minutes of your time but will have huge benefits. The course will start with a breathing exercise, through managing who and what you are in contact with to developing a better nights sleep.
To register go to: http://www.cathlloyd.co.uk/top-10-tips-to-keeping-yourself…/
Change Today .... Make A Better Tomorrow.
Let's Talk: Keeping GoingLet's Talk: Keeping Going. Whatever challenge we set ourselves whether it is a course, writing a book, training and running a marathon or working towards your goals in life there will be a life cycle. I used to see this a lot with my students when I taught and see their reactions to it. The cycle is in 4 parts. Part 1 is new and exciting. Part 2 has a monentum and comfort to it. . Part 3 is tedious, routine and there is a sense of boredom. Part 4 has great feelings because the end is in sight and there is a second energy flow. What I discuss in this Let's Talk is how you can get through part 3 more successfully. If you are struggling to keep your enthusiasm and momentum going I have a great little 10 day mini e-course to help you, Top 10 Tips On Keeping Yourself Sane. To register go to www.cathlloyd.co.uk . The sooner you register the sooner you can get going and keep your enthusiasm going.
Let's Talk: Mental Health AwarenessLet's Talk: Mental Health Awareness
This is the perfect week to talk about mental Health Awareness. When you start talking about mental health it is surprising how many people know others who are struggling with their emotions and can feel so desperate the only way out for them is to take their own life. But we can all support others, we don't have to the expert but simply be able to recognise that someone might be struggling and make time available to listen to them. Put down what you are doing, turn your phone off and listen. You don't need to have the answer because more often than not they don't want an answer they want to be able to air their thoughts to someone they can trust.
It may be you recognise some of the signs I talk about in this Let's Talk in yourself and want to change them then contact me at http://www.cathlloyd.co.uk/contact-cat…/
Let's Talk: LonelinessLet's Talk: Loneliness.
I'm sure we have all experienced it at some time in our lives. Perhaps moving areas, job, house and have found it difficult to connect with new people. At other times you might have been through great anguish, trauma or tragedy. These times create feelings and emotions that can be difficult to explain even to the closest people in your life.
To help you find your way out of times like this why not take the opportunity to connect with me and have a 20 minute lifestyle change conversation that will help you start to see a way forwards for yourself.
There are strategies that you can put in place to help overcome these feelings. If however, you are struggling to understand your feelings then I can support you in finding the right way out the fog you are experiencing.
Use the following link to contact me and I will respond as soon as possible.
Let's Talk: Moody MondaysLet's Talk: Moody Mondays.
We all have Moody Mondays from time to time but if this feeling is going on for many weeks it is time to start looking into why you are feeling like this. Feeling listless, dissatisfied and unhappy about how you are spending your working week is not great for you or the people that you love.
Research suggests that out of the working population most suicides and heart attacks happen on a Monday morning. A frightening prospect.
Let's Talk: Back to BasicsLet's Talk: Back to Basics
If we are in turmoil and conflict within ourselves it is very difficult to find the right answers to help us develop the right mindset to change ourselves.
Let's Talk: What's love got to do with it?Let's Talk: What's Love Go To Do With It?
We are being told that we need to love everybody, listen intently and give our 100% to everyone.
Personally, I think this is impossible. If you did this you would be exhausted and have nothing left for yourself. However, I do think is it a great idea to tell the people you love why they are important to you as well as showing it. The first exercise though is to do this for yourself.
What do you respect and like about yourself?
What do you bring to your relationship with yourself?